Sat. May 18th, 2024

It’s not me….. it’s you!

It’s you making me feel like this.
It’s your words I hear in my head all the time.
It’s your face I see with THAT look!
If you’d not done that, I wouldn’t feel like this!
You said this…….   
You did that……

Why did you do that?
Why did you say that?
What did you mean when you said that?
You must have felt this when you did that.
You must have meant it when you said that.

I can’t trust you….
I’m leaving….
You’re a liar…..
How do I know you won’t do that again?
How do I know you won’t go there again?

Put your phone on tracker then I KNOW where you are.
Then I know if you’re lying or not.

I’m sorry I don’t know why I said that.
I don’t know where it came from
I don’t know who it is that says and does these things.
It’s not me.

I Love you so much
Thank you for everything you do for me.
I’ve never felt like this before.
What we have is so special.
When it’s good it’s incredible.

I can’t live without you.
I want to be with you all the time.

These type of conversations are going on around the world 24 hours a day and the people who are living in this constant drama are absolutely exhausted.  

The effects it has on both parties involved in the drama can be damaging emotionally, physically and mentally the longer these type of conversation continue.

  • It may happen via text.

  • It may happen via phone call.

  • It may happen face to face

  • It may happen at home.

  • It may happen at work.

  • It may happen at school.

  • It may happen at University.

  • It may happen in the supermarket.

  • It may happen in the park.

It may be happening to you or someone you know who’s involved in these type of conversations right now.

If you are listening to it and involving yourself in it in any way.  Any response, what so ever, will feed it enough for it to grow bigger.

If it is exhausting you. If it is making you feel guilty, ashamed, fearful, angry, bitter, hopeless, lonely, or isolated, emotionally, physically or mentally then please get in touch with a private energy therapist / coach or psychiatrist, even if you can’t afford one.

They will help you find the most appropriate help quickly and they may even know therapists who they could direct you too for pro bono or reduced rate assistance.

The NHS is on it’s knees.  You don’t need to be!  Pick up the phone today and make a call.

There is help for ALL parties involved in this type of intermittent reinforcement.

It is an addiction to previous emotional drama and relief is available.

Like any addiction it is very very challenging to combat alone and takes GREAT willpower or another HUGE life changing event to bring in that change enough for it to stick.

Don’t make that life changing event be one that you’re recovering from in hospital.  Be in charge of it now.

It all starts in this moment.  Why?  Because all we have is this moment to act on.

Remember – You are loved more than you will ever know.
Remember –
What to do with that love.
Remember –
How it motivates you to be a better person.
Remember –
Who you really are…..

Being curious about the boundaries you find yourself in is HEALTHY.  Exploring them is also healthy.

You will get through this!

Rachel Earing



By Rachel

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